‘The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others’ – Sonya Friedman
I myself at 20 years old find myself part of that terrifying statistic. I am a 1 in 5 and many of the women that I know are also part of these statistics.
But how did we get here?
There always has been and always will be what I refer to as ‘creepy men’, just like the sun will always rise when night is over. We can’t get rid of them altogether but we can act on decreasing the rapes and sexual assaults from happening and ultimately create a safer environment for women and men.
In the past 20 years, Hollywood, the mainstream media and pop culture has been pushing the narrative that ‘sex sells’ and ‘less is more’ – It brings the shock value, attracts a wider audience which makes more money. But what happens when it isn’t a shock anymore?
It becomes the norm. What we are living right now.
Innocence has been lost. Virginity is being lost earlier, teen pregnancies are at an all time high and the porn industry is booming.
In sociology, the crisis of masculinity is often talked about. And personally, I think that this is what a crisis of femininity is.
In the past couple of years we have seen third wave feminism and social justice cliques overtake societal groups. There are a few specific traits to this trend too. The women involved are trying to ‘take back’ feminism by sporting butch pixie cuts, encouraging weight gain and harping on about the sexualisation of women.
But it wasn’t men who sexualised them first. Women are the ones who misunderstood ‘liberation’ to be wearing hardly anything and abandoning traditional cultural norms such as abstinence.
Doing this to you only lets the ‘creepy men’ of our society think it’s OK to use and abuse women like that because they are the ones initiating it. Young boys are growing up thinking that women want to be treated that way.
In order to fix a problem, you need to come at it from two sides. As a society we need to work out how and what we need to do.